I can't believe how much I understand what you are going thorough. The way you describe your H is identical to mine! My H also has changed to the complete opposite of the man I fell in love with. He is so self-absorbed and treats me like he hates me most of the time. I continue to be kind and act like it doesn't bother me. I'm hoping that when he comes out of this "fantasy world" he's in he will start to see me for who I really am. I believe my H is trying very hard not to have any feelings for me anymore. He's trying to convince himself that I am no good for him.
I don't know if I told you this or not, but Ow does not have the best qualities that someone would want in a mate. Only 2 people have met her that I know and they both do not like her. One is my MIL and the other is a friend of my husbands that he grew up with. They both think he is crazy!!
My H too sees d7 when it suits his schedule. He only wants to see our d every other weekend b/c he has to spend the other weekend with Ow! Now who is his priority do you think?? The man I married put family first and his children first. He is so caught up in his "new life" that he can't see staight right now.
It hurts to love someone who finds it easier to leave the R rather than be mature enough to find a way to make it work. I don't know what your R was like with your H, but my H and I still had fun together and had a pretty good sex life, but he still felt something was missing. He is out there looking for that missing piece. I'm not sure he will ever find it.
