Your H really does sound messed up and definitely confused. Is he in a MLC? Sounds like it to me.
I believe my H is, he is acting completely opposite of the man I once knew. I feel that H's Ow has been in his life for a lot longer than I thought. I think he left me to see if she could make him happier than I could. So far she is obviously doing just that.
I keep waiting for her to show her true colors as they say. My H's A has been going on for at least 2 years I think. Long time, way too long. Of course he denys it and has been lying to me and to his family all along. He has only now starting to bring her out in public. It hurts that H is acting as if he is a single unmarried man when in reality he is not!
Anyway, I am planning to take some self-esteem classes and positive thinking classes to help me with the GAL stuff. Have you thought doing this as well? If you get a chance read MuddleThrough's thread. There is an article on one of the posts called " Rebuilding your Self-Esteem After an Affair". It is really good . I printed it and hung it on my mirror so I can read it when I am beating myself up .
