Moving Forward

[MonicaP]

Hi KTF7,

Wow, isn't it amazing (and sad) how our H's can behave so similarly?! When my H comes over after work to see S4 he's usually hungry and will take the food I offer, but other times (Sundays) he'll say "no thanks, I'm not hungry". I immediately think he's got late dinner plans with Ow. Where he's getting the money for that, I don't know.

Btw, I read once to write "Other woman" with small "w" because Ow doesn't deserve the title of "Woman". I like that!

So how was it having H at your d's party? I'm sorry to hear that he left early. You could be right, it may have been too difficult for him emotionally. Was it primarily your family there? My family doesn't want to have anything to do with my H at this point. No one's seen him in a year. It's sad because he was particularly close with my niece9 and she's always asking questions. Some day I'd like to arrange a meeting.

SO, are you going to counseling for co-parenting issues? My therapist suggested that this was a good idea - no matter what - but that it could help bring things into the light as far as our marriage. We've gone twice to a new therapist after 5 months with a terrible one and those 2 sessions were the best. We're only going once/month so there's lag time.

H came this morning to watch S4 who was ill and what gets me is how different he looks and dresses. His hair is well past his shoulders now which he wears in a ponytail, his clothes are wrinkled and loose, and he rarely smiles. The look on his face when he left this afternoon was sadness. I hope he starts remembering some of our good times.

I'm dealing with a lot of anger - I an so angry that he didn't do anything to try to save our marriage before he bailed. He says he did, but that's B.S. And he's passed up every chance in the past year to try with me.

Well, I'm so tired...