Yes, I definitely think H is going through an identity crisis, although I can't call it a MLC because he is only 28. I'm 10 yrs older. H fits the "Quarter Life Crisis" picture for sure. I truly believe that if he had never met Ow we would have had a chance - with help. I think he believes he is in love with Ow because she represents a part of himself that he was too afraid to show with me. He has gotten into the Goth sub-culture, she is too - gee, perfect couple.
S4's birthday party turned out well and today H took him out for the day. I had some anxiety - worried that he might bring Ow onto the scene, but doesn't appear to have happened. H made dinner tonight and made small conversation afterward while S4 was playing in other room. He then told me that today was one of the best days he's had with S in a while. I'm glad about that. I want him to remember - by staying for dinner and interacting somewhat as a functioning "family" - what he's giving up. There was one time in MC w/ old C when he said he thinks he might have made a big mistake and that he was missing us. C was completely inept and didn't even follow up!
We were supposed to have our 3rd appt w/ new MC last week but H was sick. I wonder if we'll go this week.
My sitch: Me 40 H 30 M 8 yrs 1 S5.5 Bomb Oct 2005 Sep Nov 2005 H w/ Ow I filed for LS June 2007 H responded w/ D 2007 I have sole P custody, joint L Just need to take care of Final Judgement papers
