My WAW still won't acknowledge she had/is having an EA after a years time let alone feel remorse. She says she isn't visiting/talking/writing to him anymore, but I have no way of knowing and don't care as much to know as I did in the past. I don't, but could hold proof up to her and she would still pretend it wasn't an affair. It would be the "we're just friends" line over and over and over again. The only reason it can't be physical at this point is because the om is in prison. I don't think She wants to face the reality of it just yet.
I wouldn't look for any verbal apologies even if she did start feeling remorse. If you read the situations over in the piecing link, most don't verbally acknowledge their indiscretion and the LBS shouldn't push the issue if they want reconciliation or just want to be civil for the kid's sake. I personally don't breach the subject anymore because I want this all to be transparent to my young S6 and S13. I don't want them to know their Mother is loosing her mind and is visiting another Man in prison.
I know it sucks, but She's not thinking of anyone but herself right now.
It was easier for me to accept when I finally let go of the notion that I was the victim and just came to the realization that she was in some kind of fantasy coma of sorts and nothing anyone did or said was going to change that.
I thought my patients should have been exhausted by now, but there are posters on here who have been at it for years. I'm not as patient and strong as some of them are, but it gives you a sense of how long this could go on. Don't let it drive you crazy.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
