Toughlover - I'm glad things are working out for you. I'm so sorry for you that your wife said those things to you.
For what it's worth, I love my H very much and loved him when I cheated. I was lonely, that's the one and only reason I cheated. I got tired of pissing my H off when I would try to kiss him spontaneously or hug on him and ask him for sex occasionally. My H is extremely addicted to his work, the stock market and pretty much anything else that can take time away from me. We work in the home together and see one another constantly but yet we don't sleep in the same bed together (never have), hardly ever kiss and just snuggle together on a regular basis, I get maybe a peck on the lips before bed each night along with a very loose hug, and we have sex 1-2 times per month at the most. I just felt ignored and neglected and that's what made me look elsewhere. If it hadn't been for our children being the most important to me then I probably would have left as well, not to be with the OM but to be on my own and figure out how to find someone who will show me the love and affection I so desperately crave. But I can't stand the thought of leaving my H because I do in fact love him very much. I just get lonely. I'm 35 and told I look 25 everyday. I get hit on all the time and flirted with but yet he never tells me I'm even the least bit pretty. It's very hard on me.
I've decided to stay here with my H in hopes that he will forgive me and we can get along again but I have no idea how I'll handle it if he gets even more distant from me. He was VERY distant "before" I cheated on him. If it gets worse than it was then I know I won't be happy again in the future and I'm afraid I'll cheat again.
