Sounds to me like you've got a great start, and if your H is really motivated like you say and he ended it with OW, then you just need to listen to what cat03 wrote.
It's been 2 months since I found out about my W's A, and the first couple weeks were pure hell, then it got a little better, and a little better. I can't say I don't still think about it occasionally, but through much prayer and seeking God's help, through MC, and through my wife's positive commitment to doing her part, I've managed to get rid of most of the "demons" as well, and at least tame the one or two that remain LOL.
It gets better if you want it to be and you're willing to do your part.
You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. -- Inigo Montoya, 'The Princess Bride'
