Trying to work it out

[cat03]

it's normal to feel the way you do, it's taken me 2mths for the hurt of the A to finally stop poisoning me, I can tell you I never thougth I'd stop thinking about it, questioning details, creating mental pictures. But it can be DONE!! I can tell this with 100% conviction: the deep hurt of the A is over for me, the slime doens't reach me anymore, I've killed those demons that tortured me night and day, ok, not me but God, He's helped me get them off my head for GOOD.
It won't seem like if for you for a while, I'd think about the A the WHOLE day. But trust me, you need to make up your mind to get over it and forgive it, please see my thread of when I found out my H's A was a PA not EA like I thought. I hurt like crazy, but wonderful people have helped me along here, the posts are great, check them out.

Give yourself time, it's ok to feel the way you do now, but each day you will feel stronger, your marriage can survive this ok? don't let the A ruin your life, it isnt' the end.