My H definately piecing but me...

[74Kim]

Thank You so much for your insight.

I try and remember what attracted my H to me, It worries me because I feel it was for wrong reasons. He was a recently single dad. Not that I was a rebound R. But the mom ran out on the S, and left my H to care for him. Thier R had been over for sometime. And I, a confident nuturing woman took care of them. Gave them both the love that they deserved. I accepted his S right away and pretty much gave my H my life. I did stop doing the things I enoyed, to spend time with him. He could count on me at anytime. I guided my H to be the man he always said he wanted to be. But now 10 years and 7 kids later. It seems to have all changed. He had reached the man he said he wanted to be, the provider and a very good father and H. So I no longer had the time nor energy to "mother" him. So that is maybe, in his eyes that is he how he seen me caring for him. And being that I stopped doing that, he felt I no longer cared. But I want to be his wife not his mom.

Being that I put my "things" aside for now, he seems to be alot more pleasant. Now when he comes home from work, we have nice short R talks. He actually believes that we are fine. That he does nothing wrong towards me. I dont get that. I was able to coarse him into seing the Dr with me. I exchanged MC for a Psych dr. But we will see if he'll go. I dont want to stop MC though. But I was fearing for his health, so I thought anyway I can get him there. But now I am regretting the exchange. So since we are getting along maybe I can work on him to go to both.

I also had a revelation, After he told me about the A things were working so nice, other than my feelings about that, he was being the man I always needed him to be. Than it was like BAM it all stopped. It did when he had to start working doubles at the bar everyday. So I completely think it is the stress form over there. He is very serious about finding a new job, and I think that will have a big positive effect on our R.