My H definately piecing but me...

[ACJ]

Kim I've never read your posts before and have only read your last one. however one thing struck me completely:

do not want to punish him

If that is the case why are you asking him to move out? How can you work on your M properly if you aren't living together? I noitce from you blog that H had a PA. Again I don't know how long this has been over but if it is recent aren't you running the risk of pushing him right back there.
Just observations.you have to do what you think is right for you.