you are right on the money K, my H told me that at one point he just had to lie right and left to everyone, until the whole things was a big fat lie and he got caught in it and was way over his head.
Kim, it's OK to feel like the Hs should pay for what they did. I get little bouts of anger now and then when I realize we are in such a financial pinch just because he went wild with dinners and suits and outings, so bad that some weeks I can only take my kids to McD's once a week.
Yes, I wonder if he's been miserable enough. I think he is, he tells me how each month when the 3, yes 3, credit card bills comes it brings that guilt on him again, a debt that will take us a year and a half to pay. So then I keep my mouth shut, and remember Jesus' responce to someone who asked "so how many times do I have to forgive my brother" and he said "not ony seven times, but seventy times seven"... so, there is my answer.
One more thing, you know what I got out of snooping my H's credit card bills?, MORE heartache and anger and sadness and disgust. So, you be strong and don't look at the phone bill, snopping satisfies you for the first 4 seconds, then, you are left even more miserable than before.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
