Giving my sitch to God

[believing_isaiah43]

RB, it makes me uncomfortable as well. Relating all this to you as if you guys are high school girlfriends. WTF? Do you need to hear all this stuff; that you are some kind of revenge sex she can hurt him with? Eww. I just don't like it. (although at 6 months w/out sex, I might be persuaded to have it under any circumstances)

Granted, I am just a mere armchair quarterback here, as we all are since we 'see' such a limited picture of everyone's life on the boards. And my perspective is of course colored by my own sitch. So throw all the grains of salt you'd like on my POV.

Just thinking about you, and concerned that you are being stepped on here. Is she concerned about YOU? Your life? Your feelings? Or are you just the receptacle for all of HER problems, HER concerns, HER mourning over OM (yuck)?

I am getting frustrated with her like I used to with GH's wife.

[RBinBR]

BI, I think W held off with me as long as she did because she subconsciously didn't want to "cheat" on him. She ML to me because she was overcome with gratitude and care for me and wanted to make me happy, and because she was miserable and basically wanted sex therapy.

OM had completely ignored her for 10 days, and she wanted him to call very badly. When he finally called, it was to ask her for a favor ... but while trying to flatter her at the same time and seemingly trying to get back together with her. She was naturally highly offended. I'm not excusing her behavior in any way, but she didn't have sex with me as revenge. In fact, she didn't even tell him that out of revenge. OM asked W if she had sex with me, and she initially tried to dodge the question, which of course OM correctly interpreted as a "yes."

Is she concerned about YOU? Your life? Your feelings? Or are you just the receptacle for all of HER problems, HER concerns, HER mourning over OM (yuck)?

Yes, but I told her not to be, BI. I told her that I wanted to be her friend for a while and that she wasn't responsible for my feelings. I told her that I would rather be her friend and just be able to be open and honest with each other. I told her that I'm a big boy and I can deal with it (so far, that's been true). I don't know how long I can keep this up, but I'm fine so far.

[believing_isaiah43]

okay, just looking out for you. SO many of you males on the boards I am protective of, b/c I admire your introspection and strength and love for your W's. Hell, I'D marry most of you in another life!

I know you're a big boy; I probably couldn't have been as strong and as detatched as you had this been my sitch and am probably projecting that on you when I spew! Hope you don't mind!

[AmyC]

Wow, RB.

You're like a rock.

[~Sol]

RB,

I don't know how long I can keep this up, but I'm fine so far.

Only you can know when you reach your limit and say enough is enough. From seeing what is happening with you, you are doing good in holding it together for your M. That in itself is a big accomplishment, and it is darn hard to do! I know. I sometimes wonder myself how I managed to stay this long.

I see that your W is starting to "see" you as the better man, which I hope is the case....Just my observation.

[kml]

He's trying to get out of the army and wants W to write a letter about what the recruiter told him during his enlistment (which I'm confident won't work, by the way)

LOL!!! What a WANKER! Geez, if the military let out every poor schmuck that a recruiting officer lied too, they'd have no one left! They lie, lie, lie like dogs to make their quota - and now we have a backdoor draft, keeping these poor guys in after their enlistment is up, or calling them back in after they've been let out, and using the national guard and reserves as active duty. I don't feel sorry for OM, though - he's getting what he deserves

Ellie

[~Sol]

He's trying to get out of the army and wants W to write a letter about what the recruiter told him during his enlistment (which I'm confident won't work, by the way)

RB,

The only way THAT is going to happen is if OM does something highly illegal to get "kicked" out, and it won't be good for him. I have been in 2 branches of the military and I can tell you the military is keeping everyone in that's in. So I wouldn't worry about that.

[RBinBR]

Supposedly, a JAG officer told OM that he can get out based on recruiter misconduct, because the recruiter put him into an MOS that he wouldn't have a security clearance for after his bankruptcy went through.

We'll see. I personally think OM is misinterpreting what the JAG told him or overestimating his chances.

In other news, W indicated last night that she is going to break the lease on her apartment instead of paying rent next month (which makes sense, since I don't believe that she can pay her rent). I don't know whether she is thinking about moving in with her parents or about moving back in with me, but I'm glad that OM's plan to get out of the army and move back in with her will finally be put to rest for good.

Today will be her first day back at work in almost 2 months. She told me that no one has addressed the backlog of installation problems that has built up, and her boss won't give her any new leads until she self-generates a number of sales, so I don't think she's going to make much money for a while.

[~Sol]

RB,

Hang in there! She's getting a dose of reality right now. Let her make her own decisions but continue to be as attractive as you can for her. Also don't believe what she says about any JAG officer, most likely they will put him in a combat MOS and send him to the front lines. Just my 2 cents....

[RBinBR]

That's why he's desperate to get out, sol. He's being offered MOS choices like "fuel truck driver" and he desperately doesn't want to go to Iraq. (For the record, W is obviously afraid of his going to Iraq as well.)