Giving my sitch to God

[RBinBR]

BI, I think W held off with me as long as she did because she subconsciously didn't want to "cheat" on him. She ML to me because she was overcome with gratitude and care for me and wanted to make me happy, and because she was miserable and basically wanted sex therapy.

OM had completely ignored her for 10 days, and she wanted him to call very badly. When he finally called, it was to ask her for a favor ... but while trying to flatter her at the same time and seemingly trying to get back together with her. She was naturally highly offended. I'm not excusing her behavior in any way, but she didn't have sex with me as revenge. In fact, she didn't even tell him that out of revenge. OM asked W if she had sex with me, and she initially tried to dodge the question, which of course OM correctly interpreted as a "yes."

Is she concerned about YOU? Your life? Your feelings? Or are you just the receptacle for all of HER problems, HER concerns, HER mourning over OM (yuck)?

Yes, but I told her not to be, BI. I told her that I wanted to be her friend for a while and that she wasn't responsible for my feelings. I told her that I would rather be her friend and just be able to be open and honest with each other. I told her that I'm a big boy and I can deal with it (so far, that's been true). I don't know how long I can keep this up, but I'm fine so far.