Quote: I think it is a good sign that you have become physically intimate again, but of course you would not feel "connected" when W is still depressed and grieving over OM.
No kidding! Two weeks ago, she was still telling me that she couldn't imagine having sex with me and didn't know if she would ever be able to. For her to want sex with me (and ask for it no less) is definitely a good sign.
Quote: I am wondering if your W and you are able to talk about that? That you realize she is grieving, even though you know this is what she wants, that it is hard, and that you know that this process will take some time and that is OK. To encourage her to tell you what she is thinking and feeling, not to hold back to "protect" you from her truth.
PL, it took a little while to get her over the fear of hurting me or making me mad, but W now wants to talk nonstop about her R with the OM ... and I'm grateful that she trusts me enough to share her deepest emotions with me. She tells me how much she misses him and what things she misses, she tells me how wrong for her OM was and why she feels relieved, she tells me how disappointed she is that OM is quitting the army and resuming his smoking habit (she wanted to have changed him for the better), she tells me lots of funny stories about their times together, good and bad.
Quote: Predictably, I see your W needing to hit her own emotional bottom and it seems that she is afraid of the pain and depression and would be happy to use you as a diversion to avoid what is coming as long as possible.
No question that this is what she is doing -- avoiding reality.
Quote: It is a wonderful miracle to me to see how your patience and commitment is paying off. I remember when you were very close to giving up, so frustrated and resigned. And look now. What a blessing!
Don't forget that you helped, PL! I definitely appreciate you.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
