Giving my sitch to God

[PositivelyListening]

Hi RB, It sounds like things are moving along well, and also as would be expected. So glad to hear you are drawing closer to each other. Just continue to be very gentle with your W and take it slow. I think it is a good sign that you have become physically intimate again, but of course you would not feel "connected" when W is still depressed and grieving over OM. I am wondering if your W and you are able to talk about that? That you realize she is grieving, even though you know this is what she wants, that it is hard, and that you know that this process will take some time and that is OK. To encourage her to tell you what she is thinking and feeling, not to hold back to "protect" you from her truth. Just wondering if you are talking about it, I imagine your W feels a combination of guilt, remorse and sadness which is all very complicated and confusing especially if she moves too quickly with you. Predictably, I see your W needing to hit her own emotional bottom and it seems that she is afraid of the pain and depression and would be happy to use you as a diversion to avoid what is coming as long as possible. It is important that she not project the pain that is coming onto you. If she does that, she will cycle away from you again, I would think. So do make sure to encourage her to take some time for herself, to feel her feelings and grow, and just let her know that you are there and willing to listen without trying to fill up every hole in her heart. Because eventually she will have to learn to deal with the holes in her heart and repair them herself rather than put all that on you. Just a word of caution, as I do not want my friend RB over-extended so that the R becomes way out of balance once more. You have done such a great job of growing and working on you. I am so proud of you RB, and of your progress. It is wonderful to see you grateful for these many blessings. BTW, even if it does not feel like 100% connection right now when you ML, this is such a huge step towards regaining your intimacy and trust with each other. I am sure if your W takes the space and time to grow and work on herself, you will find your way back to all of it. Just keep talking and listening! And keep being the amazing manifestation of unconditional love that you are. I am rooting for you RB, as always. It is a wonderful miracle to me to see how your patience and commitment is paying off. I remember when you were very close to giving up, so frustrated and resigned. And look now. What a blessing!