Hi RB, Happy New Year. I am so wonderfully impressed with what a solid and loving and clear thinking person you have become. Wow. I only hope one day that I get the opportunity you've got in front of you, and that when I have that chance, I can be as steady and calm and smart as you are being. You are doing all the right things, not reacting, being her friend, having fun, being calm and steady. Can you imagine how much better it feels to be around you than it does to be around crazy, needy, demanding OM? Just remember, as uncomfortable as it might be, everytime she touches in with OM again, she is getting farther away from him. She is checking in, and discovering, each time, "oh no, I don't want that at all. Yuck." And meanwhile, you are the treat, the picnic spread of her life. The joy of you three together as a family is greater than anything she could ever have anywhere else with any one else. You just keep being great RB. You are irresistable. And one day, the will be back again too, I am sure. Build trust and profound love first, and everything else will follow. I am rooting for you, RB!! I am quite sure this will be an amazing year for you. Good things are coming, more every day. Hugs to you, RB. Hang in there, my friend

PositivelyListening
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When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller