Oh my goodness, RB, she's moving in with you???? Wow that was so fast it makes my head spin! I am beyond words, I am so happy about the progress you have made, and what is happening now.
Now of course, as your friend here, I also have some words of caution. Don't stop your DBing!!! You will need loving detachment now more than ever. You will need to encourage your W to gain her strength and individuality and creativity and autonomy - in the context of the marriage, she will need to find her soul's freedom. So don't just take over again, let her begin to show up, find her ways to contribute and be valuable.
Also, regarding the sex/romance piece. I haven't read Passionate Marriage yet, but I know it did Grasshopper and others a lot of good. What I have gathered from the posts may be really good for you in your sitch RB. You taking on the role she is craving - the tender strength and leadership without hesitancy. This may be a little while off (although it is hard to say, considering that your sitch is moving fast right now!) but I do think you have an amazing opportunity to make this M everything you have ever dreamed of. And it's really important that you continue to work at it from your side. Don't just leave it to your W to "find" you attractive again. So, no rest for the weary... Although you don't sound weary! I am so happy for you.
What a lovely Xmas present this all is. I am not seeing in my own sitch any movement towards reconcilliation, which is hard. So it is a special gift to see the progress of others I love and have been with all year, moving towards the outcome we have all been seeking. My best to you RB. I am rooting for you, as always...
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
