Well, well. It has now been 14 months since the start of the affair, 11 months since I kicked her out, 10 months since she moved the OM in with her, and 4 months since he joined the U.S. Army -- and it now appears that W's affair with OM is over. I don't know how it has ended, but I do believe that it is over for good.
What that means for our marriage is hard to say. W indicated that she wants to work on herself for a while before we start working on us, and I'm obviously fine with that. She's going to pursue some psychotherapy, and see if some of her behavior is tied to her mental disorder and see if they can be addressed together. She wants to know why she could do what she has done, and I obviously approve of her addressing that.
On the other hand, I'm not absolutely committed to a reconciliation unless I'm comfortable that she has truly changed and unless I'm comfortable with her mental health situation. I'm not going to go back to a marriage where she and I constantly butt heads about her taking her medicine and she frequently has problems because she refuses to take it.
I suppose God's timing is best. Even a few months ago, I would be overjoyed by these events, but now I can barely feel relieved. Perhaps this is to prevent me from taking her back too quickly, before all our issues are ironed out.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
