Giving my sitch to God

[RBinBR]

...he just got his apartment 3 days ago and got a year lease for it and bought brand new everything throughout...bought new furtniture today. Surely doesn't give me much hope for anything happening to soon. His family and I are very close and everyone is so upset with him...he's loosing everything in his life because of his A and drugs but he still won't seek help. If you have any advice at all I'd love to hear it...seeing you've been through this all before.

My heart goes out to you, as I know that there is nothing more painful than this.

My advice to you would be to remember that your H's pain is actually more intense in some respects, because he does not have the comfort of Holy Spirit right now. Do not tolerate or accept his sin, but let him know that you will forgive him when he's ready to truly repent and change his life. I would advise you to otherwise have as little contact with him as possible. You can't "save" him ... it's something that he has to do for himself.

I would also say that you don't know how long it's going to take him to come to the breaking point. It could happen to him in the next few days, or it could take years. I would urge you to make II Timothy 2:24-26 your guide:

But the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all, apt to teach, patient, in humility instructing those who oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth; and that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will.

I wish I had refrained from arguing with my W at the beginning of my sitch, but God has used this to teach me patience and humility. Open yourself up to His guidance and let him mold you during this time into the woman he wants you to be.