Hi RB, Well, here's what I see my friend. You seem worn out and afraid to hope, afraid you will be dissapointed once more. I know it has been a long time, and a rough one at that. I am here to encourage you to find your hope again. Not like an attachment to the outcome, but you know, what would it be like if it was a happy ending? A really happy ending, where everybody wins? You, your W, your D, your family, everybody with a happy ending. Well then, hold that thought. Hold that thought in your mind. Hope is that.
Listen, it is GREAT that W has that book in her car. It doesn't matter how many times she tried to pick it up before, it doesn't even matter if she's reading it now. SHE IS TRYING. Remember, RB, you want to see more positives, focus on them. Look for the good and praise it. Don't give up. Even if you end up in a D later, don't give up now!!! Look for every positive thing you see in your W, write it down. Only the positives. Focus on that, and only that, and see if you don't notice a few more the next time. Write those down too. Seriously RB, you've got to believe in this or God can't work his miracles.
Meanwhile, I am worried that you are more resigned and that has been growing I think. Are your burdens heavy right now? Can you ask for help, a moment for you. Are you doing things to care for yourself? I remember that beautiful trip you took in the Appalachians, you were inspired. What will lighten your load, lighten you up? I believe in you RB. Right now, I prescribe play time, silly play and fun until you are giggling (do only girls do that?)
Biggest mistake I made in my M, my H gave me instructions in my wedding ring "Always Remember Playful" and I got too serious and worried to be any fun and poof, where did he go? Shoot my H gave me the instructions, and I ignored them. I am way out on a limb here RB, but if OM is such a young punk maybe W needs to see your playful side. Can you find him inside and bring him out to play?
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller