I have such a peace now. I've told my W that she can have the divorce anytime she wants it. I've given up control and empowered her. It's out of my hands. After initially saying that she wanted to go ahead with a divorce, W indicated that she is going to see a Christian counselor to see "if he can straighten me out."
Last night, I told W that D4 and I are going back to Disneyworld for Thanksgiving week, and she quietly responded with, "I want to go too." I told her that we be fine, and she agreed that she wouldn't sell many security systems that week anyway. It wasn't a commitment from her to come, though ... we'll see.
She also basically told me (without saying it) that she's going somewhere to meet OM for several days on October 18-20 when he gets out of boot camp and has leave.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)