I've been reading alot in the last 4 months I've read
Love must be tough- Dr James Dobson Never be lied to again - Lieberman Getting the love you want - Harville Hendrix Living with the Passive Aggressive man - Wetzler Conscious divorce - susan allison I hate you-don't leave me kreisman Don't swet the small stuff for women - Carlson The Divorce Remedy - Weiner Davis The power of letting go - vredevelt Wild at Heart - John Eldredge Captivating - John and Stasi Eldredge The power of a praying wife - Stormie Omartian The total money makeover - Dave Ramsey
Let's just say that they know me at Borders. If you have any suggestions on what to read next I would appreciate it.
A helpful hint for those whose H are on the way out the door. When you do the goal setting steps in chapter 2 of The Divorce Remedy, don't leave it in the house. My H has never gone through my stuff. I had my goal sheet folded in half inside my book, inside a drawer that has only my clothes in it. While I was at work, he went through everything in my room and found my goals. This led to his being very angry and yelling about how he's told me it's over, nothing is going to change that. He then wanted to talk about the divorce and how that was going to work (house,kids,financially). I told him that since he has never wanted to work on our marriage, I now refuse to work on a divorce. I told him he was free to leave whenever he wanted to (without the kids), but I was not going to figure it out for him. He would have to learn how to take care of himself. He flipped out when I told him that. Yelled that it wouldn't matter if I jumped off a cliff, he said that if I wanted to kill myself he would get me the gun. At that point our 12D walked up behind him and he left and spent the night at his brothers. Probably the worst thing he's ever said to me and that my D heard this made it truly horrible. He was home the next day, as though nothing had happened.
I don't want to tell all my horror stories, I want to move forward and just don't know how to not get sucked in by his back and forth feelings of love, indifference and hatred.
