Thanks, Lil. I really appreciate your insight. I do have "Making Love Again", and I'm going to re-read it in light of what you wrote. I would say my DH is not as motivated as the co-author of the book, but I know that I can't ever truly understand the emotional side of it, just as he really couldn't understand my anguish when we couldn't get pregnant.
I don't recall our urologist mentioning alcohol as a cause of bladder cancer - DH's former smoking habit was the big clue. I have lost friends to leukemia who were recovering alcoholics. I think I'll ask the next time we're there for a checkup - now I'm curious.
