I am really impressed with this thread. I think, through illustrating some of our stories Cobra is more able to see the similarities/familiarity with some aspects of his sitch. Cobra, there is some really good stuff on here. It wouldn't hurt at all to reread this thread with a non-judgemental eye - look for some of the deflections, look for the things that ring true, look for some strategies that just might work. I'm sorry that your sitch is so complicated and I hope that at some point Mrs. Cobra gets motivated to really solve the issues - for herself, the kids and you.
