NO - the guy who prescribes the meds does only that. She needs someone who specializes in treatment of OCD in therapy. That person should be consulting regularly with the psychiatrist who prescribes the meds. Cobra, if your W struggles from true OCD (not just what we all like to joking reference about the picky people in our lives) then she lives every day in terror. No wonder she acts out. This isn't something for you to blithely dismiss as FOO stuff that just needs some time in the crucible. If her OCD is unchecked she CANNOT grow and change in the ways you want her to. Or indeed, in ways that she wants to. OCD is NOT just behavioral. It does not excuse her for some of the other things she does but it will prevent her from accessing feelings of safety and intimacy - they are BURIED under her anxiety. Ok - what she gets accomplished with the "pill pusher" doc isn't so much your business but a little research into people who specialize in OCD and a frank discussion with W that with the right help she could do A LOT better is warranted.
I'm suggesting Cobra that without the proper treatment in place, you are spinning your wheels. You referenced V BUBE - same thing there. His W has a serious disorder that will take years/ a lifetime to deal with, improperly or not treated, the disorder is magnified and forward movement in nearly impossible.
