However, if W had continued to escalate and go into a rage, or say she started to through D13’s stuff around, then I would not be able to hold on very long. We would go to battle mode.

I can understand that. I dont have a problem with battle mode, its just some subtle adjustments.

I know battle mode...(not with a woman like this) but I cant ever lose my cool. Its not an option. There are camera's everywhere, there are people everywhere, there is respect that has to be maintained no matter what, and restraint.

Ill offer a suggestion

When it happens, get right in her space, maintain eye contact, and repeat, 'Thats enough.' 'I said stop' etc. Invading her space may very well antagonize her. Hold your position, hold your emotions. hold hold hold it.

If she leaves let her, let her mumble over her shoulder... continue to hold yourself untill she comes around. Once its over make like everything is fine, just like you did this last time...
This will garner you serious respect.

if she makes a move or statement as though to become physical, ice cold state.. 'I will call the police. I will not tolerate your verbal or physical abuse.'
Your sitch is really on the fringe in some ways. Be the solid rock, 'healthier' one that she can follow. Dont follow her to abusiveness.

I watched your last thread, and saw a couple things but wanted watch and let it play out.
Stop telling women what they think/feel is wrong. Its not ever-- even IF it were. you need to take some tai chi and work on your push/pulls. This TKD has got you all straight line offensive.

Its good talking to you again too.