I have heard the advice of everyone here. I know what they say is correct, but it is correct for certain situations. At times I feel my marriage is in the position that I should follow this advice and I try very hard to do so. For instance, last night W was getting upset with D13 because her room was still a mess. D13 was being resistant and starting to talk back and W started escalating and cursing. I intervened, calmly told D13 to finish cleaning her room as she had promised me on Sunday that she would, then told W that she didn’t need to curse. W let it drop and I went upstairs the check the situation in D13’s room.
In this type of situation, I can usually hold onto the “proper” behavior. However, if W had continued to escalate and go into a rage, or say she started to through D13’s stuff around, then I would not be able to hold on very long. We would go to battle mode.
Right now we are on the right track. I will do all I can to keep it here. But we have been here many times before and I know it is only good for a limited amount of time. During these “good” times is when a lot of the healing can be done for the kids. The vacation also did some healing for the kids.
