Quote: The real stumbling block that the C and I are seeing is that understanding this dynamic means W has to come to terms with the fact that she actually WANTS the love and caring she rants and rails about. In other words, when the C says W walks right up to the line then backs off, she means that W can exchange niceness for niceness, but moving further to admit that she wants me (or any other male) and a love relationship is where things get scary, uncomfortable, and a little too much for her to handle. So she backs off. In some respects, I see this a an exercise in acclimation.
I'd really like to comment further on this, but unfortunately, I can't right now 'cuz of work <eye roll>. I'll get back to it... think this is a gem.
