I hear you, buddy. I do. Now... just to make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, please... did you find any merit in the last post I made? Any at all? If so... tell me what it was... I'd really like to hear it from you. If you don't mind.
If not... then tell me... but if you wouldn't mind, tell me in a maybe humorous, gentle way. You don't have to, mind you... your choice. But I would appreciate it.
BF:
Quote: This is typically how men communicate.
Understood. We women get that loud and clear. This is NOT how women communicate, however. We don't need heaps and heaps of compliments, or they do not ring true. But a well-timed compliment that is deserved... and left to stand on its OWN... will come back to you 10-fold.
Quote: After the game everyone sits around and watches the video, and tears apart what they did wrong, even if they WON. Yeaaa we won. hooray for us. Now lets look at what could be done better next time.
Guess you've never been in a woman's locker room after a game. Most women have not been in the men's locker room after a game, either.
You say you like it when girls are 'women,' but what it sounds like you are expecting here is for women to 'act' like men when it comes to communicating...
Quote: Why is doing a good job such a big deal?
Does there really need to be a reason YOU find valid? The fact that it has now been stated, in a respectful manner, I would think is enough to give it credence and its due respect.
Quote: Shouldnt that just be ...like.... expected?
No.
Quote: He could not give a compliment at all and just focus on what was 'lacking'.
Depends on what you want to get out of the situation. A woman who is bristling, and ready to leave you with finishing the paint job yourself... or a woman who is ready to climb the ladder again.
Doesn't mean you can't review how things could be better. Women typically respond better to this type of thing when there is noticable space between the compliment, and 'let's see how we can improve' discussion.
