Please understand that what I had told you on the other thread was NOT to 'give up.' I'm just telling you bluntly that you CANNOT get blood from a turnip. Trust me. Please. BTDT.
I think, personally, that DE-escalation would be in EVERYONE'S best interest, and that was, in essence, what I was suggesting to you. A separation, without separating.
It is my opinion only, that if you try to continue to GET intimacy from your W in the current atmosphere... all you are going to do is worsen things. You may see improvement here and there... but I think it is false improvement. It's just tactical change on both your parts.... not true intimacy.
Sweety, I lived this myself. Not like your sitch per se... but my own version of it. I now have benefit of hindsight. I'm not trying to hurt you, or tell you that you are wrong in your approach... 'cuz, hey, if she leaves you... then you can't help that, right?
