Actually, I agree with the NOP's on the restraining order. Your W's behavior towards the children gets too far out of line....too often.
I think the difficulty with the restraining order though will be (and someone correct me if I'm wrong here) that she lives in the same house. I'm wondering though if in an attempt to shield yoru children perhaps you could get some legal documentation written up that she is not to discipline the kids without you being present.
Still I'm not sure what that would accomplish....but something does need to be done about her anger with the kids. Talking with her...won't cut it, arguing with her...won't work, it'll just set her further back on her defensive heels.
I hate to say it, but I do feel something legal needs to take place, but I'm not sure what. You don't seem up for a separation (keeping the children with you)...but I'm wondering if that may not be what needs to happen, for her to see her behaviors simply won't be tolerated. If for no other reason, but to help protect your children.
It seems like such a drastic step I know, but I do still believe something drastic needs to happen. In many ways a separation (once anger cools over it) could be a way for you two to start again. You know...do the dating process again, perhaps learn to enjoy each other again....with the space of being able to go back to your separate spaces when necessary. Thereby removing the stresses you have IN the home.
Just a thought.
Personally the story about what she did to your daughter just mortified me. It reminded me of how my father used to wake me up when he'd find a wet wash cloth in the sink (a pet peeve of his I guess)....I'd wake up to that think smacking me right in the face when he'd throw it at me from the bedroom door. THAT was nothing compared to what your W did, and I ABSOLUTELY hated that and resented him for it. Sounds like your daughter DID already have her homework finished....and your W was WAY out of line. She seems to have anger issues, similiar in fashion to my Dads when he worked for the Gov. on jobs he couldn't talk about. I'd be the 1st person he'd see...and I caught all of his fury on his bad days (no I wasn't beaten) I was constantly yelled and screamed at for things I didn't deserve....that is with me still today. I don't want that for your daughter. Something does need to be done about your W's behavior. NOW
