No one is telling you that you are at the root of your W;s problems and that if you just quit being angry, everything would be solved. Holy cr@p, why can't you hear what we are telling you (at least MOST of us are telling you)?
I consider it a HUGE problem that you and the C seem to have spent all of your time talking about your W! When did you talk about YOU, what you can do, how you feel, what's going on with you? Talking about your W when she is not there is just gossiping, and not productive AT ALL. Your session is to talk about YOU!!!
Telling your mom you hate her and want to kill her is NOT normal 13-year old venting! Where on earth did you ever get that idea? That kind of talk should not be permitted, but since you and your W freely call each other names, I guess your D figures it's okay. It's NOT okay. Expressing anger is okay, but not in such a cruel and destructive way. Your daughter is being raised to think that this kind of talk is normal and acceptable, and it flat fcuking is NOT. You are doing her a huge disservice sending her out into the world with these values.
You wrote
Quote: But there is a world of good W could do if she would just level with herself about her anger and her issues.
Yes, and if she doesn't...?
There is still a world of good YOU could do it you started behaving like a civilized, grownup adult man who takes responsibility for HIMSELF instead of continually crying, "She MADE me do it."
