Quote: Did you eat? Yes Did you take a walk? Actually no. Felina was alseep on the couch by the time I got up. Did you call the doctor's office? Not yet, tomorrow maybe Did you call a friend? None to call tonight Did you call your mom? No Do you plan to call the county? Maybe tomorrow Do you plan to call a church? No
It is called a crisis hotline. I am sure just about every area of US has one, most with 800 numbers. Emily, you are scaring us. You need to help us. Make a call tonight. Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
There IS one thing that you can do right now, and that is to STOP, and take a few deep breaths. Seriously, dear, do this right now a few times. I can feel you not breathing, in just your writings, all the way across the country!
Deep breaths, in and out a few times. Really.
Ok, once you've done that, I want you to take a moment, and look at the number of people who have posted to you in just the last hour. You don't really have to look at what they've written right now, just look at who they are, and how many there are.
From what I can see, there's a helluva lot of people who are concerned about you. So many people here that care about you here. For right now, at this moment, take heart in that fact.
Also, at this moment, try as best as you can to stay in the moment. You can VENT, VENT, VENT here right now, but just stay in this moment, and don't make any kind of decisions right now.
My challenge to you is to write a purely venting post, and see how many [censored] words you can fill it with. Call your H an [censored], the slut a [censored], as many times as you can. Let's see how long it take you to get to 50 [censored]. The only rule on this is that you can't say anything negative about yourself. Do it all in one post, and one post only.
After you're done, let's get a new thread started, and help you get back on track, ok?
OK, go!!
JJ
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I'll be good until tomorrow . . . I'm not calling the crisis hotline . . how freakin embarrassing. Like I said I know one of the guys that worked for one in the area and ALLs they do it run their mouths about the people that call in. They don't offer any real help only someone to talk to if you need it. I won't even talk to my family and friends about the way I feel . . . . I damn sure wouldn't call the crisis hotline.
I guess that's probably why my doctor thinks I'm fine. I really do have a hard time reaching out for help and telling the truth about my feelings. I guess I just feel safe baring it all here!
Quote: I wish I could get a goodnights sleep. I never do! I can't tell you how long it's been. FOREVER seems like. OK, so that's one thing to work on. Taking a walk (damn, I sound like an old fogey) in the evening really would help. It just helps you feel better.
I toss and turn and look at the clock and half the time I'll be honest I wonder why Kev didn't call before bed. . . I wonder if he was talking to her . . . I just wonder about everything. OK, Emily, let's not worry about him right now. Someday, not today. OK?
Then lastnight around 2 Felina came in and was screwing around . . . when she finally fell asleep she ended up with her feet in my face .. . then she stole my pillow . . . and of course Kiya still gets up in the night. I always enjoyed when our kids came in. Sometimes required severe bed hanging when two came in at once. Enjoy it now, the munchkins grow up, and then they won't want to! Then Felina is rip roarin ready to go at 7 most days. The days she isn't and she actually sleeps in are usually days I can't sleep. I heard that!
Who am I suppose to call tomorrow and how could they help me anyway. TIOGA COUNTY Tioga County Human Services Agency 1873 Shumway Hill Road Wellsboro, PA 16901 (570) 724-5766
If they can't help, they should be able to tell you who can. Or we'll sic Amy on them!
I have no way of getting to the doctors anyway. There's always a way. Please stop putting up barriers before you get there. There must be a program that can help, I know there are here. There are some stubborn folk here, they'll help you get where you need to be! So even if I called . . . It just doesn't do any good. And how do we know this? Please, stop it! You know what, just stopping the negative thoughts will help! I know you don't think you can do it, and I know it will be hard. But with the support you have here, and the strength we all know you have, you can do it! I am hopeless. No. You are young and overwhelmed.
Quote: My challenge to you is to write a purely venting post, and see how many [censored] words you can fill it with. Call your H an [censored], the slut a [censored], as many times as you can. Let's see how long it take you to get to 50 [censored]. The only rule on this is that you can't say anything negative about yourself. Do it all in one post, and one post only.
I can't even get mad about it yet! Isn't that sad.
I really just want to know why he is willing to leave me and his [censored] kids for her. I KNOW her . . . . she's . . . . well I always thought I was better than her. He is proving me wrong. I don't have a high self image but I always felt that I was a better person than her. I damn sure would never [censored] a married man. Stupid goddamn homewrecking whore. He's not the first married guy she's slept with. .What makes him any different than the last? WHY does she think she's loves him more that I do? I love that man to death and I do want him to happy . . . I just want him to give us another shot. I know I could get it right.
Once that angry stage hits I'll try to rip them both a new one on here . . . . I'm just too sad right now
Quote: I'll be good until tomorrow . . . I'm not calling the crisis hotline . . how freakin embarrassing. Like I said I know one of the guys that worked for one in the area and ALLs they do it run their mouths about the people that call in. They don't offer any real help only someone to talk to if you need it. I won't even talk to my family and friends about the way I feel . . . . I damn sure wouldn't call the crisis hotline.
I guess that's probably why my doctor thinks I'm fine. I really do have a hard time reaching out for help and telling the truth about my feelings. I guess I just feel safe baring it all here!
I think we all can sympathize with that, But...what is that pride going to do to your girls? I'm not asking this to make you feel guilty, just to show you what you are doing. Heck, if Alex Rodriguez has to talk to his life coach every day you can ask for help. Your doc should be able to give you a referral to a mental health pro who has to keep things confidential. I know that's not a direction you are comfortable with, but it's not like you are comfortable with the way things are going now, so what is there to lose? Stop being such a man! (That was feeble humor...really feeble.....uhhhhh, have a glass of warm milk and go to bed. Well it might be early for that right now, but try to let go. Maybe some classical music. No lyrics to make you think!
Well, that's not TOO bad of an amount of [censored]'s for a "sad" stage! That's a fairly decent start, anyway!
Once that angry stage hits I'll try to rip them both a new one on here
Cool! I'm anxious to see what you can do with that!
I think that I probably better go in and check the censored words list, to make sure we're covered for this! If you do it right, you might even be able to come up with a few we haven't thought of yet!!
Anger good.
Sad bad.
(At least for now, anyway!)
Sometimes, there's nothing better than a good "gettin' pissed off" to help get you in a better frame of mind! At least that's what my wife yells...OOPS...I mean tells me!
JJ
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Log off the computer for the evening and try to relax. Take a nice warm bath to relax you and then sit down and read a book with the girls. It will help keep your mind off stuff.
I also had the problem with sleeping. Once in awhile I have to take an excederin pm to help me sleep. I also turn the clock to face the wall so I can't look at it. It helps!! I have started sleeping a little better. Some nights I have a hard time falling asleep but once I am asleep without the clock in my face I can stay asleep.
Please get up in the morning and make some phone calls. You need to do something to get your life on track.
Quote: I damn sure would never [censored] a married man. Stupid goddamn homewrecking whore. He's not the first married guy she's slept with. .What makes him any different than the last? WHY does she think she's loves him more that I do?
That's a good enough start. You ARE angry and it is justified. You just turn it on yourself. That's not good. Because you can't kick yourself to the curb! Believe me, there have been countless times I have barely been able to stomach being in the same room with myself. But what do you do? You change yourself, that's what you do.
(That was feeble humor...really feeble.....uhhhhh, have a glass of warm milk and go to bed. Well it might be early for that right now, but try to let go. Maybe some classical music. No lyrics to make you think!