Quote: Most other Mom's have a job and don't live in low income and still live off of the scrapes that the child support gives them. He'll use every dirty trick in the book . . including all the personal info I've ever given him . . . he'll drag it all out and make an ass out of me in court. . . so I won't fight him. Besides he can afford a lawyer I can't.
Emily, you really think you're the only 21-year-old in the position you are in?
Most other mom's in your position do NOT have a job, ARE living in govt housing and ARE on welfare. They get the job, they move on. Why do you think the whole support system exists? Just for you? There are hundereds of thousands of you's out there that are not giving their babies away.
You are not alone. You have to accept the help. It's justa for a while until you get on your feet.
The lawyer too... really - there are state lawyers.
Anyway, I don't think a judge would give the girls to Kevin, even if the lawyer were the most expensive one on the planet. You don't need a great lawyer.
Amy is right... There is NO WAY. Even if you give up. He wont get them.
May it be eternal while it lasts.
My sitch
Me: 36
H:34
M: 5 years
Bomb: 03/14/06
Quote: The fact is you don't WANT to do the hard, self-sacrifiicing work to save your family.
You want someone else to do it for you
Alright Amy . . . given the truths that have just come up. WHAT DO I DO if I want it to work.
Explain how I go about this.
She has been out on the road with him until Monday . . . and even then there were plenty of oportunities for her to be right back out with him as we speak. He told me he called a divorce lawyer. He is choosing HER.
So you tell me how I save this sucker and I will do it.
He'd never get those girls. Once she dumps them off and he seeks custody, IF he seeks custody, he'll fail the home study. They'll go to foster care. Emily and Kevin's parental rights will be stripped from them. The girls will go up for adoption.
Emily will have then completed her own vicious circle and kicked off a new one IN HER DAUGHTER'S LIVES.
Quote: Emily, you really think you're the only 21-year-old in the position you are in?
I know I'm not the only one in this position . . . . I'm just so frustraighted because I have been looking and cannot find a job.
All of that aside. Tell me how to proceed with Kevin to maybe pull this sucker outta the ground. Maybe next week I'll end up in the beginning of a divorce but I have that long at least.
I don't want to give up on my girls. I wouldn't want them to go into foster care. My point was if he tries to take them there is no sense in me fighting it . . . I will just let him take them. I see no other option.
Quote: When did Kevin tell you he dropped her off? 2 or 3 weeks ago. . . .
When did SHE say he dropped her off? Monday . . . but it hasn't been updated yet so chances are he went groveling back to her on Monday and she went back out on the road with him . . . or else my guess is she'd still be throwing herself. As I said she posted that blog while he and I were at our support conference
Quote: I don't want to give up on my girls. I wouldn't want them to go into foster care. My point was if he tries to take them there is no sense in me fighting it . . . I will just let him take them. I see no other option.
