Quote: just don't know. I know that the biggest one is as Ali said: NOT BRINGING UP SCUMBAG OW! That's the hardest for me. . . . but I understand that me having doubts about them gives him doubts about them being over and us being back together.
Emily,
It is very hard to push all of that to the back of your mind but you really need to try. If you want your marriage back then you need to forgive and move forward. You will never forget but try to hide it somewhere out of reach. My H didn't have OW but I kept accusing him of it and that is why we are not together today. I accused and hounded him so much he got tired of it. The more you say something about OW the more he will run to her. You must not mention her so he doesn't think of her. Each time you mention her, his mind goes to her.
You are a step up on most of us here. Your H is actually trying to come back. You need to work on your trust issues. Put a rubber band on your wrist and when you talk to him and you think you are going to mention her then snap it. The pain will be so bad you will stop thinking about her.
