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It's money he has to pay for the girls he laid down with you and created.

When their Daddy makes decent money it's not right for them to be raised in poverty!!!

So get the hell over it!



I know you're right Amy.
But like I said it just felt that that was what drove the stake between us.
When we first met him he was VERY lovely and held my hand in the car, wanted to hug etc. (I was the reserved one.)
But after the conference it was a whole different ballgame.
Before we left he was back to "normal".

I just don't know if I should "let go" and let him go be with her and "be happy".
Even though he's already tried that and missed me. But then again when he's "with" me he misses her.

I just don't know what to do so I am trying to do nothing.
I'm not going to call him anymore unless it's REALLY important and ONLY about the girls.
I figure he'll call if he wants to talk . . . maybe space and time are the things he needs.

I want my marriage to work out.
I even told my parents we were trying again. Surprisingly enough my mother was VERY happy.
I just didn't tell them how still on the rocks everything really is. . . . I didn't want to get into all of that. I simply told them that we were talking about maybe trying to stay together etc.

Oh guys. . . . tell me to just be still and let God work . . . . I want my H back and I know that's the only way it'll happen.

Alimari I hope you read this because I know you went through the period where your H "kept" the OW around with like pictures etc.: HOW DID YOU GET THROUGH THAT.

Like yesterday while in his truck he gave me back a bunch of stuff . . . my digital camera, a sweatshirt, my XBox games, Movies, and ALL of HIS and my CD's.
Progress . . .

BUT . .
in his truck he still has a coloring book and crayons that were hers. He still wears the hoodie that she gave him for Christmas (hell he wore it yesterday). Stuff like that. I asked him about throwing them out (BAD MOVE I KNOW . . I regretted it as soon as it sneaked out) and he VERY adamantly refused.
I know this is a patient game . . . . but how do I deal with that.
She DOES have his new phone number . . . so I am guessing that they do talk . . .

What's my move now?
Nothing . . . just back away and wait?!?!?!
I am soo confused