Didn't get my name put on the bank account. We tried but the lady was busy the whole time we had before the conference and by the time we were done we had 15 minutes before the bank closed. BUT he did give me 140.00 and a carton of cigs. (so closer to 180.00)
So my H has to start paying support . . he's going to start this week. I'll get 591.and change (I don't remember exactly). It feels soooo wrong. Like blood money.
HE WAS GREAT through the conference . . . I cried almost the whole time. I felt like a total ass. . . he kept telling me it was OK and to just calm down etc.
He did get his address changed for parking . . . so that way he won't ever really have to go back to that area of the affair.
He had a small freak out yesterday. I guess he had seen HER on Sun. night (in passing to say hi HE SAYS) so yesterday after the conference he was like, "Just go home Emily." I told him we had just done what was legally necessary and down the road once things were normal and we were living together etc we could cancel it. We even told the DR people that we were trying to reconcile etc. They said it was fine, when things were settled we could cancel at any time. Anyway . . I told him that and he said, "I know what we did today." (It felt almost like a spike right between us) I asked if this was about her and he replied, "It's always about her."
By the time I left we were OK again. Just a short freak out. He even commented on that. I also talked to him lastnight. Things are still OK. There was another small freak out between when we left down there and when we returned home (about 4 hours) In which he called my answering machine said he had called a D lawyer and was going in ASAP and doing what should have been done in December. He would always love me but he couldn't do "this" anymore. (this was about 30 minutes after we had left). Two hours after he left that message he called back and left another message. Saying: After we left he checked his VM and this D lawyer had called him back One that he had called her awhile back when he thought we'd never work out (*rolls eyes . . he's only had the new number a month) He said he called her back and told her to never mind he wasn't going to go in ("he promised") He loves me VERY much . . and he's VERY sorry for the previous CRAZY message (he was crying by now), it was just that her calling back sent him into another freak out. But he was on his way back out on the road he loved me and he'd see me in two weeks, and he would call later (which he did).
Now he says he'll try to get a weekday off next time he comes home so he can get a bank account up here. No sense having one the whole way down there that he can't get to he says.
