If I had a dime for every time my H said he would call AND DIDN'T...well, I'd have a lot of freakin' dimes!
You have to detach more. This doesn't mean stop loving him or give up on your marriage. It just means stop taking his actions and words (or non-actions in this case) so personally. It's NOT ABOUT YOU. It's ABOUT HIM. He's selfish right now, you KNOW this. Don't be surprised when he shows it again and again.
When my H says he'll call me later, I never expect it. If he forgets, I don't call to remind him that he forgot. When he does call, I pretend it didn't even OCCUR to me that he didn't call when he said he would. I just let it slide off my back. I stay busy with my kids and other stuff. If he calls, great. If not, FINE!
Emily, I know this is hard because you want things to change rapidly. But they won't. Your H is showing an interest, even if it's slight. Just back off and let him make all of the moves. And if he doesn't make them, don't take him to task on that. Just accept it and move on. This is where patience comes in.
There's a really great quote I posted in my thread a few days ago from Dr. Wayne Dyer:
"Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you."
