I dont know if you understood Corris post, but I know I was thinking ... Man, Im going to need an oscilliscope and a VOM to figure out how to understand women. Sheesh.
While the teasing and stuff she is talking about can be fun, I know when Im in a committed R, in love, I want to have sex with her pretty much everyday, so the game playing and pushing and waiting for days etc, doesnt sound too appealing.
I just read thru your other thread, you made some good progress and changes on yourself in a short time period.
A recurring theme I see with your guys dynamic is that you let her 'set the tone' to various aspects of the R, instead of being yourself, and lettting her adjust to it or set a boundary too you. You let her change you in regards to your friends, how you behave in public or with your friends, and the sexual tone fo the R too. Youve gotten over your conflict avoidance but your 'acting out' by stripping down in the car is not exactly a middle ground. I did get a really good laugh about it though. Thanks for that.
The only thing I can suggest right now is that you decide what your sexual desires and needs are and be very upfront and direct about them. Dont be afraid of her imagined or possible reactions and rejections. If something is too much for her, dont take it as a rejection of you. Its just her fear of the unknown. If its too much for her, dial it back a notch or two and let her be comfortable with that. Then try again later. Often times she will be considering what you want, without letting you know, but if you get angry or resentful, its going to immediately make her feel unheard, and disrespected.
as far as her fantasizing about OM. Make sure she is in the moment with you. IF she is not, stop the interaction without irritation. Dont settle for less then you want and deserve, for your own self respect.
