AS for why she stayed? She has told me that the fog started to lift. She realised everything that she would be throwing away by not trying to get our R back on track. She realised how much this would hurt the boys and that they deserve our attempt at getting things back.
The guy that I complained about through my other threads had been trying to get her involved in a full blown affair for a couple of months. She has come clean about it, and has cut him out of her life. I believe her when she tells me that she only thought of him as a friend, he was pushing for more, and she was getting off on the attention. Could be considered an EA, but I want to move forward from here.
Things she complains about:
I cannot relax enough.
I am a prude.
I think too much about things.
Not spontaneous enough.
Not willing to just let go.
She knows she has control issues. She knows she needs therapy. She is unsure if she can get attracted to me again. She does not know if the passion can be reignited between us.
A friend pointed out that we have some destructive behaviours in our interactions. We have a habit of goading the other one into hurting the other. We are like pitbulls and do not let go of issues until one of us is "bloodied on the floor". Her aggressive, me passive-aggressive.
There we have it. Don't know what else to add, but ask away and I will answer.
