So, I have moved out of newcomers. My wife has decided to stay with me, but we are still in a world of hurt. One of the things she told me while in the WAW Fog was that she was not attracted to me, and never was. I was able to get over the hurt of this by chalking it up to her convincing herself how horrible life is with me.
Here we are, she is out of the fog and admitting there was one, but her story has not changed. I have the SSM book and will begin reading it soon. I am with little hope at this point, since while she is LD with me, she does have a sex drive. In order to get herself ready to have any kind of sexual interaction with me she fantasizes about other men. She has even pretended I was someone else while ML, but it felt wrong to her so she stopped.
It feels to me like she only does anything with me because of “duty”. I know I will need to start by reading the book, but for now, I am at a total loss.
