I'm not putting all the blame on him. I am putting the blame on him for not wanting to work on the marriage...and I'm putting the blame on him for wanting a divorce. I do not want a divorce-AT ALL. I believe anything is workable in a marriage and you can get through anything as long as you work at it. I put alot of blame on me too. I've reflected alot on what I did in the marriage and how I neglected alot of things that he needed. So I'm not saying it's all his fault. But it is HIS fault for wanting the D. I asked him to go to counseling and to try and save the marriage and he said No. And I don't believe in D....so the D is not my doings. Oh...I've reflected on what I did...and I see it clearly now, but he wouldn't give me the chance to save it and show him that I can improve and change. He just wanted out. So that to me is a quitter...and someone who does not fully understand the concept of "committment" and what marital vows are. Who's side are you on anyway???
