my 1st post but WOW. i was reading your 1st post and thought your sitution reads just like mine. Then I read that your mediation date is also 10/16. Same as mine. I've decided not to go. Gonna ditch work and make it a girls day. I figure...Why do I need to be there so he can once again have the satisfaction to look over at me and tell me that he is sorry, but our marriage was a mistake.