My H told me 2 1/2 years ago that he did not want to be married anymore. Then he proceeded to talk about things we would do when I finished college and got a job. Then a few weeks later, he would tell me he was moving as soon as I got a job. This went on for a year and a half. When I got a job, I told him it was time for him to leave. That was thirteen months ago. He filed at the end of January. Then began to come around in July until he started dating OW. After that he submitted a property settlement offer. It had been a month past our six month waiting period. I still want him back but have cut off all contact that is not regarding our sons or something that I can't avoid. He contacted me by email today but at our son's football game, he didn't even look my direction or stay to talk to our son. The OW wasn't there tonight so I am sure he had to hurry to catch up with her. She has become more important than his sons. I wish I could just forget he exists and move on.
Sometimes I don't cope very well with him seeing OW but I have been seeing a therpist and I am waiting to get a referral to a solution focused therapist. I stay really busy with my job and my sons' football games. I will be fine but it will never be the same without my H.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
