I wish you all the luck in your efforts. My H was sending me the same kind of mixed messages until he began dating a friend of ours. Now he has pretty much stopped interaction with me except when we are at our S's football games and we are waiting to talk with our Ss. I didn't know DB coaches responded to our posts. I would have loved to have had a session with one of them but there is no way I can afford it. I am still waiting for a referral to a solution focused therapists near me. My assessor said H and I had a distancer/pursuer R so I stopped contacting H unless it is about the boys and I haven't had any reason to contact him since.
Sorry for going on about me, sounds like you are getting good advice. I wonder what would happen if you acted as if the divorce ws not going to happen. Sometimes when we are so focused on saving our marriage we get uptight when we are around them.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
