hi, I'm a new one on here, but I've been reading everyone's post for a few months now. Here's my story. Been married only for 2 years, no kids. I'm 27, husband is 30. Husband dropped the bomb on me April 30th and filed July 10th. Says "he was unhappy, I quit doing things with him, he isn't in love with me anymore, but I was an excellent wife, was loyal to him, loved him more than anyone could ever love him, but he didn't want to be married anymore." He complained saying that I quit going to our lakehouse on the weekends, quit going to the condo in Florida with his family, quit riding horses with him, I wouldn't learn to ski, I wouldn't hunt and fish with him and I just wouldn't DO things with him. But he can't complain about me as a wife...I was a excellent wife! Worked full time, cooked every SINGLE night, kept the house clean, washed his clothes etc. When I told him I didn't realize doing all those thins meant that much to him so I am willing to go all those places and do all those things with him he told me "too little too late". I sent him to talk to our preacher 3 times and he went to two counseling sessions, but kept telling them "he had no desire to make the marriage work". When asked if he is seeing anyone else or if anyone is in the wings he continues to say no. He says we are just opposite people and I don't like doing the same things as he does. There was no arguements leading up to this I had NO IDEA he was thinking about divorcing me. He told me that night of April 30th that he was just unhappy and he didn't say divorce, but I freaked out and called my parents and they came to see us and talk with him and he refused so my parents got mad at him and cursed at him because they were mad he was doing this to thier little girl-throwing her away. He's told me "I thought about reconciling with you, but I can't since your parents did that to me." My parents even apologized. I think that is just a crutch he is using. Well we've both obtained attorney's and I have one of the top 25 attorney's in the my state that never loses a case and he is asking for everything and my husband is getting mad now. He is telling me "If there is ever going to be chance for us in the future then you don't need to fight me like this. I feel we need to divorce now, but I'm not saying there is not going to be a chance for us down the road, but fighting me will make us enemy's." I don't know if he is saying this because he is trying to get me to back down on him and he is lying or he really would like to get back together. Also on the sex: he quit having sex with me about 3 months before the bomb dropped and he said he wasn't psychially attracted to me anymore and when he had sex with me that it only felt phsycial and he pointed to his heart and said it didn't "feel right". I am 104 pounds, blond hair and there is nothing wrong with me so I don't know if he is gay or been sleeping with someone else. But when I saw him a month ago to talk about things he was very physically attracted to me and kept wanting to touch me and comment on how pretty I was, but kept telling me he wanted a divorce. Weird. So here I am 5 months later and still no court date and he has not changed his mind at all. He did go see our cousnelor at our church and wanted me to come so we could have a "Christian Divorce". No such thing. This was to get me to do a non-contested divorce where he would give me $15, 000 and our divorce would be over in 30 days and I wouldn't fight him for anything. So I don't know if he has found anybody else and he just keeps saying there isn't anybody or he really just didn't want to be married to me anymore. Can anybody help me out? I still love him and wish he would come back. But there are NO signs of him coming back. When will I stop wanting him back?? I know I have to let him go and I am trying. Thanks everybody!!!
