Got it I know my W is choosing not to end it and leaving that to me. She sees it as choosing her kids, not as choosing me. But, if the time comes when I can do it no more, I will end it, bad guy or not! Even Separated you can still DB, the sitch just changes a bit. We can't ever control what they think, only what we do. Again, there is a logic to what they've chosen to do. The R was not working and we weren't getting it. We hate how they chose to bring that to our attention but that's done. We can only push forward until we can't anymore. No guarantees here. Now, I just have to put the s**t I'm preaching into action! I refuse to live as a "victim" anymore nor can I just sit back and call her "crazy" and wait for her to "come to her senses". It won't happen. I've got to take control, which is really what DB is all about. Taking contol of what you can and accepting what will be. No matter what happens we will all be much better human beings for what we've tried to do. P.S.Just remember Helinka, polish is never the answer! It just glosses things over for awhile.
