I guess it is just a choice to try and fix it this way...the alternative is probably seperation or divorce which would seem to make it less likely for reconciliation. I feel in no position to issue ultimatums...I am pretty certain she would bolt or at least she says she would. Do I call the bluff? I don't think so because I do not think she is bluffing. (I know I should trust my instincts on this because I am a bad ass poker player...lol)
Even if I do issue ultimatums and she decides she cannot leave what position does this leave us in? her resenting me...her angry...her with no desire to work on our relationship...her still in secretive mode and continuing the A anyway...so really this seems like the only way for me...work on myself...treat the situation like I am courting her anew...try not to be confrontational...give her the space and time she needs...do not judge...just prove to her that we can have a better marriage and hope she eventually comes around. When I do stick to these guidelines I can see progress...just going to take time and there will be some difficult times along the way. This is my plan for now...if after some time it does not seem like things are getting any better then I will reassess and decide if I have had enough. I do want to save my marriage and I do love my wife so I feel it is needed that I make these sacrifices.
Anyway...last nights little post from above I was in a bad place...but she got home soon after I posted and we had a nice half hour together before we went to bed. Just helps to vent on here sometimes...spew out some of the relationship problems/talk on here so I do not have a set back and get in that mode with her.
"Friendship is like peeing your pants: everyone can see it, but only you can feel the true warmth."
