I've been seperated for four months. We both have our own apartment. My h wants to buy a condo with ow. He wants me to sign a deed giving him sole financial rights to the condo. If I don't do it he will probably divorce me. What would you do? We have been getting along better since I said I would. Now I'm not sure. Am I fighting a losing battle? I'm trying to think of this as a business deal, but it's so weird. Any thoughts??? Help???
Quote: He wants me to sign a deed giving him sole financial rights to the condo. If I don't do it he will probably divorce me. What would you do?
Don't believe a word of it!!!!
It IS a business deal. When my H and I had been seperated 3 months, he came to me and asked me to sign a quit claim on a half million $ condo he was buying.....this meant that I had no claim to it. I said, "NO". So he became so kissy nice to me. I didn't fall for it.....
In the end, he bought the condo, but my name is on the title as co owner, because he bought it while we were still married. Four months after the sale was final, he filed for D. No, I do not think that if I would have given him the title free and clear that he would not have D me. I KNOW he would have still done it. But now, I own half of it.
DO NOT SIGN ANYTHING!! If he has to have it so badly, put your name on it. Call a lawyer and spend the money for a consultation. There are abouit 50 different ways to be listed on a deed. Ask the L which would benefit you the most if you were to D.
Now that H and I are getting D.....the equity in his condo is being deducted from his half of ownership of our marital home. Being nice in a business deal will never get you anywhere. Email me, if you want to talk details.
I agree. There is a point at which DB, or acting as if has to give way to practical decision making. It would not benefit you to give up your rights in this case and really think about it, if the only reason he's staying right now is because of a condo you will "let" him have to shack up with OW, is that good enough for you? If there is nothing more than that to your R at this point then I think it's time to take a step back. Remember, there is something to be said for all the times us LBS's have finally decided to let go, only to have the WAS start to get curious again.
I would say either way, D threat or not, you should not give in to this request.
He wants to buy a condo with OW...and he wants your help...I would tell him too bad. Does not sound like he has much other intention to divorce anyway if he is buying a permanent residence for him and OW.
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