Welcome to my world, Muddle! That is exactly what my W wants. Just accept it for now and don't try to convince her of the inanity of it all. No point. But, you have now given her what she wants, a validation of her desire to end your R in its present form. Yes, get counselling around parenting your son, as you mentioned earlier, because aside from the benefits to your son, it is you two working on something TOGETHER! She's been so damn busy pushing you away that it has exhausted both of you. I know my W told me that for a long time she was mean to me in the hopes that I would get it and give up! Sound familiar? Anyway, I think this is great news and truly a break through of sorts for you two. "Friends" can be quite intimiate without the baggage. P.S. Hide your damn journal